Stepping Out


Don’t you sometimes wish that finding a new man was just as easy as ordering hotdogs and eggs for breakfast? (no pun intended there, I swear!) Whether you want your eggs scrambled, poached, or sunny-side up, you can just bark your orders at the waitress, wait a few minutes and you know it will come in a matter of minutes, definitely within the day. Or perhaps, if you could simply ask a genie to grant you just one wish and voila! A new man lands on your lap.

What makes finding a man difficult are the many factors that come into play in your search. You want to find a good man who will treat you right, not just any man. You aren’t (and shouldn’t be) that desperate to find a creature that would simply pass for a man – you know, just someone who looks like a man, sounds like a man, who has a ding-aling and two legs. Then, after you’ve zeroed in on someone you like, the attraction has to be somewhat mutual before things can go any further, right? (That’s why ordering breakfast is easier because it won’t say no to you!).

Finding a new man may not be easy, but it’s not rocket science either. Here are some gems of wisdom from dating experts to help you navigate the sometimes-turbulent dating waters with more success.

Know What You Want

Before you even start looking for a guy and worrying about where to find one, be clear in your head. What are the qualities that you are looking for in a man? It will help you distinguish worthless rocks from real gems, so to speak. If you know what you want and won’t settle for less and believe without a shadow of a doubt that that is exactly what you’re going to get, the Universe will send you exactly that. Law of Attraction advocates know this by heart.

Knowing the qualities of a man who not only can send your heart aflutter but also be the ideal “partner in crime” in achieving your goals and one day starting a family with will help you figure out the most probable locations where you can bump into him. You want someone who likes to read? Try hanging out at libraries or bookstores or joining a book club. If you like gardening and fancy meeting a man with similar interests, you could try joining horticultural societies and events.

Be the Gal You Would Date If You Were A Man

Give yourself a good, long, hard look and ask yourself what you can bring to the table if a man is to be interested in you. True, looks aren’t everything, but if you think a woman who is overweight is unattractive, yet you yourself are a little on the plump side and not doing anything about it, you are sabotaging your own chances at finding love. Perhaps you have a nasty habit or trait that repels prospective mates? Try to improve where possible and remember to accentuate your best features.

Try Online Dating

It’s such a pity that there’s so much stigma attached to it, but we can’t deny that online dating has increased the dating pool by leaps and bounds. In the U.S. alone, 49 million out of 54 million single people have tried online dating. By harnessing the power of your fingertips, guys you don’t normally encounter in your daily existence are now just a few mouse clicks away. The Internet is the biggest matchmaker of all, so embrace it and consider enlisting the help of professional matchmaking services if you are really bent on finding the man of your dreams.

Say Yes to Blind Dates

Many couples have crossed paths because someone else had set them up on a blind date. So, don’t be furious when your friend tries to play cupid and pairs you up for a dinner with her friend, former classmate, cousin, brother-in-law, or whoever it’s going to be. Just suspend your preconceived notions for a while, relax and let nature take its course. With an open mind and a good dose of common sense you would normally use when dating anyone for the first time, there is no reason why blind dates won’t work for you.

Attend Seminars and Workshops

Another great way to meet a man with similar passions is to attend seminars and workshops related to your interests. Even if you don’t get to meet him there, you will benefit from the things that you learn.

Do Volunteer Work

Volunteering will not only expose you to a lot of young, single men who care enough to contribute their time to a worthy cause; it will also make you feel great about being part of something worthwhile.

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